The gay marriage debate in 50 years
is the party line of:
“I think I started having more success when I stopped feeling like there was a narrative to my life. I think once you let go of that idea, then first off you stop seeing yourself as the most important thing in your narrative, you see yourself as more of a component. There’s no art to my story. There’s no like, climax or anticlimax… so trying to find where things connected or what’s ‘in my arc’ didn’t make a lot of sense. And once I let go of that — cause that was a big thing for me in high school and college — I think I started having more success or became happier.”
Hey, that’s my managing editor! I can confirm that Justin is an awesome dude — if his guest appearance in ‘Finding Paul Miller’ didn’t confirm that — and that I’m on the same page as Paul: Justin’s my hero, too.
“The senators who voted against background checks for online and gun-show sales, and those who voted against checks to screen out would-be gun buyers with mental illness, failed to do their job. They looked at these most benign and practical of solutions, offered by moderates from each party, and then they looked over their shoulder at the powerful, shadowy gun lobby — and brought shame on themselves and our government itself by choosing to do nothing. […] Our democracy’s history is littered with names we neither remember nor celebrate — people who stood in the way of progress while protecting the powerful. On Wednesday, a number of senators voted to join that list.”
It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.
But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.
Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.”
This totally justifies every excuse I’ve been giving myself from not doing that thing I’m supposed to do.
is the party line of:
or in other words: earlier today.
This is the coolest thing I’ve ever reblogged. I think about this all the time.
Nobody can even comprehend this fact. There are 7 billion people on the Earth. You can’t comprehend an afterlife because it seems too crazy? Well I can’t comprehend this current life and nobody’s going to tell me it doesn’t exist.
Think about it.
YES YES I WAS TRYING TO REMEMBER THIS THE OTHER DAY because I have this all the time, especially when I travel by train which is one of the reasons why I DO travel by train a lot.
I’M REALLY GLAD THAT THERE’S A WORD FOR THIS WOW
Wow. There’s a WORD for it?
This is CONSTANTLY on my mind. With EVERY person I meet. It’s a bit overwhelming, yet so enthralling. :D
yes yes omg
I was just thinking about this yesterday…I had this feeling, this realization, and it just crept up on me and overwhelmed my thoughts and feelings and I thought, “There has to be a word for this…” and here it is. Sonder.
John and Mary meet.
What happens next?
If you want a happy ending, try A.
John and Mary fall in love and get married. They both have worthwhile and remunerative jobs which they find stimulating and challenging. They buy a charming house. Real estate values go up. Eventually, when they can afford live-in help, they have two children, to whom they are devoted. The children turn out well. John and Mary have a stimulating and challenging sex life and worthwhile friends. They go on fun vacations together. They retire. They both have hobbies which they find stimulating and challenging. Eventually they die. This is the end of the story.
Mary falls in love with John but John doesn’t fall in love with Mary. He merely uses her body for selfish pleasure and ego gratification of a tepid kind. He comes to her apartment twice a week and she cooks him dinner, you’ll notice that he doesn’t even consider her worth the price of a dinner out, and after he’s eaten dinner he fucks her and after that he falls asleep, while she does the dishes so he won’t think she’s untidy, having all those dirty dishes lying around, and puts on fresh
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